I got an email this morning from Stephanie who asked a question I get asked a lot. She asked me how I can be so candid and truthful on my blog. And although I will respond to her personally I thought that since I do answer it so often I should answer it here as well.
First, I am an all or nothing kind of person. I’m candid on my blog because I’m the same here as I am in real life. You either love me or hate me. And I am ALWAYS starting conversations with family, friends or near strangers with “this may be TMI but…” HA!
Second, although I’ve had doubts at times, I am ok with ME being my brand. At the end of the day you need to love my work but you also need to love me, since it’s ME that your hiring. That’s why Kim and I have been trying to blog more personal things over on Fresh Art so that our clients can really get to know US before hiring us. Will it turn some away because we’re a tad unprofessional? Sure! But it’s ok b/c little about us is truly professional! You’ll meet our kids at some point probably or at least hear about them, you’ll be in my home if you come to the studio which means you might see clean laundry on my couch like Gena did yesterday at her newborn session!
And third, this is just who I am! I am secure in my relationships and my life I guess. Have I always been so open? Probably. Has being personal on my blog(s) ever pushed away family or friends? I don’t think so! I hear a lot that moms or family are the ones people worry about offending the most and I’m lucky that I’m great friends with both my mom and my mother-in-law. They KNOW me, the good the bad and the very very ugly with or without my blog! And anything I’d write here I’d tell them in person.
I think at the end of the day we’re not perfect people. We can’t sit behind a screen and attempt to be someone we’re not, more perfect than we are. And frankly, people that only write about the good and the pretty and the perfect turn me off b/c I KNOW they’re hiding the truth. We all have bad days and yell at our kids and cuss and fight with our husbands and hate our jobs. Do we have to put it ALL out there? Nope. I chose to keep most of my marriage private out of respect for my husband. As the kids get older I won’t blog about their private issues or struggles. But am I honest about who I am? About ME?
Damn straight I am! HA!
So Stephanie, if cussing on your blog a little or writing the truth about your life or your feelings or your joys or your fears turns your family away I think you’ve got bigger issues… like why their love is so conditional! And you know what? I bet they’ll all surprise you! Because they’re not perfect either! And maybe it would start some conversations where you ALL can get real with each other! And in my experience, the more we know about each other the deeper the love and greater the appreciation we have for one another.